It finally feels like spring here in Calgary and with the weather warming up and sun and shining, I would like to share a some things that I find interesting and helpful. Enjoy!
Dozens of ads for sleep consultants and many parenting magazines warn parents about the "four month sleep regression." But does it really exist? Best you ask your doctor but here is my observational opinion on this topic. I propose it is a made-up term used to explain why a baby who has not yet learned self-calming skills and who is therefore being helped to go go sleep - and who is still receiving night feedings at the age of 4 months... begins to awaken more frequently overnight and takes longer and longer to put to sleep at bedtime and for naps.
Being There for Your Child
“I always want to make sure I am there for my child!” This heartfelt statement made by a mother of a 9 year old boy symbolizes the strong feelings all parents have around the fear of letting their child down. For some parents, these feelings are intensified if they, themselves, felt that a parent wasn’t there for them when they were young. In that case, the impulse may be to bend over backward to avoid repeating past mistakes or risk failing your own child in any way.
Most parents admit to being somewhat tired and stressed these days. With two working parents, arriving home at the end of the day after picking up kids at daycare, the last thing they feel up to is a handling a melt-down. “I’ll just let it go this time. I’m just too tired to deal with it.” But by giving in to a demanding toddler - are you starting down a slippery parenting slope?
The crossover line is thin. Very thin, in the sense that one day you are still a member of the Pregnancy Club where you’ve gotten to know some new friends, bought new clothes and with whom you’ve been enrolled in a 9-month course on birth and delivery, with enough books to last through three deliveries. You’ve made a birth plan, studied signs of pre-term labor and most likely you’ve made friends with your midwife or Douala.
“Squabbles between siblings are inevitable and necessary. The less I do, the better.”
Many parents are surprised to hear my advice on how to handle sibling rivalry. And most parents I hear from are exhausted from the job they have taken on as referee. Trying to referee doesn’t work and in fact can increase the number of incidents that will occur because kids get your attention when they argue and fight.
Notice how once a baby learns to crawl she gets her hands on everything in sight? It’s a wonderful moment for your baby but parents scramble to figure out what to do about this little octopus. “We just distract him away from the cord to play with something else,” one father told me.”It works most of the time.”